Help If Your Child Stammers

Find out how you as a parent or guardian can help your child who stammers.

It can feel scary at first if your child starts stammering. You might worry if you're doing the right thing to help them.

It's OK. There are lots of things you can do. See our tips below. We also tell you how to get extra help, and about our parent support groups and workshops.

On this page:

Is my child stammering and why?
Talking with a child who stammers
Changing our language
Supporting yourself
Getting extra support through therapy
Apps
School
Books to read with children
If you have a teenager who stammers
Other sources of support

If you still have questions or concerns, chat to us. Phone our free helpline on 0808 802 0002 or start a webchat.

Is my child stammering and why?

Is your child speaking differently but you're not sure if it's a stammer? See What Is Stammering? to find out what it sounds and looks like.

Also, read our page What Causes Stammering? There we explain what we know about why children start stammering.

Does your child speak more than one language? If you're worried about it, see Stammering & Bilingual Children.

Talking with a child who stammers

How you and other people respond to your child's stammer is important. It will shape your child’s perception of themselves.

It's OK to feel worried at first, but if you seem anxious, it may make your child feel worried too. Try to stay neutral even if that's not how you're feeling.

Here are some things you can do. They may not seem like big changes but they can make a huge difference. They can reduce the pressure your child may feel when talking:

Slow down your own rate of speech and use longer pauses. This keeps the conversation calm and relaxed.
Don't tell a child who stammers to slow down or take a deep breath. Instead, tell them that there is plenty of time and you are happy to wait for them.
Try to have regular one-to-one time with your child, even if it's just for five minutes. Find time when they aren't competing with tasks or other family members for attention.
Ask one question at a time and give them plenty of time to answer. Show them it's okay to pause and take some time between hearing and answering questions.
Use short, simple sentences.
Don't interrupt or try to finish their sentences for them. While it may feel helpful, if you get it wrong they have to start all over again.
Keep natural eye-contact.
Listen to what your child is saying, not how they say it.
If it feels right for you and your child, it's okay to acknowledge when they are finding it more difficult to talk. Reassure and encourage them. For example, you could say, "Learning to talk is hard — lots of people get stuck on their words and that's OK. You're doing really well".
Make sure everyone in the conversation gets a turn to speak.

The most important lesson I learnt was to slow down my own speech.

Read mum Victoria's story

Watch our video below:

Video: How you can help a child who stammers

Read our article on Nurturing resilience in children who stammer. It gives practical tips on helping a child to think and feel better about stammering.

Changing our language

When talking with your child or with others about stammering, try not to describe it as 'good' and 'bad'. For example, "Your speech has been really good today" or "Her stammering's been really bad this week".

Language like this can make a child feel that the way they're talking is wrong. Or that they're being bad or are failing in some way when they stammer. This can chip away at their confidence. It could make them anxious about speaking or make other anxieties worse.

Instead, describe changes in stammering as 'more' or 'less'. For example, "She's been stammering more this week", or "He's been stammering less today". This gives you a way to talk about changes in your child's stammer without any judgement.

Watch more videos below:

Talking to a child who stammers

Becoming more comfortable with your child's stammering

One-to-one time with your child who stammers

How to talk about stammering

We've got more on our Videos For Parents page. You can also read written transcriptions of the videos.

Supporting yourself

Watch the video 'My Stammering Child'. It explores the concerns you might have when your child starts stammering. It was made by Humber Teaching NHS Foundation Trust, My Pocket Films and Action for Stammering Children.

Read a great article from Jessica, parent of a 4-year-old boy: 'Supporting myself as the parent of a child who stammers'.

Our online groups & workshops

We run Zoom support groups for parents called 'Parent2Parent: Pull Up a Chair. Here you can meet and chat to other parents and share experiences and tips.

We also often run online Workshops for parents. Email familysupport@stamma.org for future dates or see our Events section.

We've also got a Minecraft Club, where children aged 7 to 14 can get together online and play the game Minecraft.

Getting extra support through therapy

Have you tried the strategies above and you're still worried? Would you like some extra help?

You could get an appointment with a speech & language therapist or find a stammering course. See Children's Stammering Therapy & Courses for details.

Is your child having therapy at the moment but you don't think it's having an effect? See What To Do If Child Therapy Isn't Working Out.

The 'Penguin' app

There's an app for parents called 'Penguin: Stammering Support' which might help. It's a 10-day programme if your child has started stammering, created by BeneTalk.

Each day there's a short video with a task to help reflect on your situation. It then helps set up strategies to support you and your family. This app is also used by quite a few NHS Speech & Language Therapists.

Read an article from Jaclyn, a speech & language therapist who was involved in creating the Penguin app.

School

See our Stammering At School page for details on getting support for your child in the classroom. For example, it has information about how to get extra time in oral or spoken exams if your child stammers.

If you have any questions about stammering and school, get in touch with us. Call our helpline for free on 0808 802 0002, start a webchat or email help@stamma.org

Books to read with children

There are several children’s books which talk about stammering. Read our reviews of the following books:

'Do Animals Stammer?' by Arthur Minella
'How To Be More Hedgehog' by Anne-Marie Conway
'The Boy Who Made Everyone Laugh' by Helen Rutter
'I Talk Like A River' by Jordan Scott
'Little Big' by Hassan Aly
'The Stuttering Coach' by Martin Scott

If you have a teenager who stammers

Adolescence can be a difficult time for young people who stammer.

They may want to be more independent. They might feel extra pressure at school or with exams and start to worry more about friendships. Anxious thoughts about stammering may make them avoid situations they're worried about.

Teenagers who stammer know that they sound different to their peers. They may well have read information about stammering on the internet. Some may also have been to speech & language therapy when they were younger. Or they might be having therapy now.

It can be hard for teenagers to talk about topics that worry them. Be patient and create a safe space for them to talk. Let them know it is OK to share their worries and thoughts with you. Talk openly with them about stammering and let them know that they are not alone.

Reinforce that stammering is not a limitation, nor is it something to be ashamed of. Show them our page of Influential People Who Stammer.

Our Your Voice section has lots of articles by people who stammer getting on in their careers. Watch videos from ‘Stambassadors', successful people talking about their stammers.

Download our 'Reasonable adjustments for students' guide below. It explains how they or you can ask for changes at their school/college or university to make things easier for them.

We've also got a Minecraft Club, where children aged 7 to 14 can get together online and play the game Minecraft.

Parent & teen support group

Don't forget to get support for yourself if you need it. At STAMMA we run a parent-led support group for parents of secondary school children who stammer.

Other sources of support

Download one of our information leaflets below. Or you can order them from our Shop for free.

UK Peer to Peer Support Group for Parents of Children who Stammer. A Facebook group for parents to support each other and share experiences, thoughts and ideas. It's a closed group so only members can post and respond.

The STAMMA 'Space For Stammering' Facebook group. This provides a space to share experiences, ask for advice and talk openly about stammering. Lots of parents are members. The group is moderated by STAMMA staff and volunteers.

Action for Stammering Children. An informative website on stammering with a focus on children and young people.

Read Your Voice articles from parents.

More information

Share your experiences

You can help other parents of children who stammer in these ways:

Join one of our Parent2Parent online support group meetings.
Write a Your Voice article. Share your experiences to encourage or help other parents.
See if there's a research project you can get involved with. There are often questionnaires or online interviews where parents can share their experiences.

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