Don't worry about it. You'll grow out of it. Just relax. Be more confident.
Sound familiar? It’s easy for others to hand out advice. It’s well meant, but not very helpful.
The way you stammer, the way you feel about it, will change over time. So while your stammer might affect you a lot now, it is likely to change significantly in the years ahead. The less you care about it, the less of an issue it will be.
It may help to talk to a teacher and go through things which could help you in class. Talking about something which is really painful can get it out of your head, and give you perspective and space to breathe. Maybe talk first with your parents about what to say and who to approach. Your parents could come with you if you wish.
My stammer really affected me at school. My English teacher didn’t know why I refused to speak during presentations and I sat at the back to avoid the spotlight.
If you find waiting for your turn to read out loud in class puts added pressure on you, ask if you can go first, or indicate when you want your turn. Talk with your teachers about how you might respond to the register or questions in class and extra time for any oral tests at GCSE. These types of changes are known as 'reasonable adjustments' – download this pdf for more examples of changes, or reasonable adjustments, you can ask for.
Let your friends and teachers know what you would like them to do when you stammer. Maybe give a short talk to your class – if you have a Speech & Language Therapist, they could help you with this, or come and do it with you (see our page on Finding a NHS therapist).
Being open about stammering will help your classmates understand more about what it’s like for you and what they can do to support you.
Bullying and teasing at school is not acceptable. All schools have a zero tolerance when it comes to bullying, so find someone you trust at school, and tell them about it so that action can be taken.
There's lots of good therapy out there. So, if you want help in managing your speech then go for it. Find your nearest NHS speech & language therapy service at our Finding a NHS therapist page. You may be able to refer yourself, although in some areas you will need to see your doctor first. If you are under 16 your parents will need to be involved.
There are also some courses for young people, where you’ll meet others your age. See the list below.
City University, London
Five-day stammering intensive courses for young people who stammer aged 8-18 during school holidays in London. Tel: 020 7040 0150.
The Fluency Trust
Residential courses in Devon for children and teenagers who stammer aged 10-17, that combines intensive speech therapy with outdoor pursuits. Tel: 01793 466790.
The Michael Palin Centre for Stammering, London
Weekly group therapy for school-aged children aged 8–12. Two-week group therapy for children aged 10–14 with their parents and for those aged 15–18 during school holidays in London. Tel: 020 3316 8100.
The Talking Out Residential: Five-day residential courses in Yorkshire and the North West for ages 12–16, combining intensive speech therapy with outdoor activities. Tel: 07763 719272.
Being a student brings its own pressures, whether you stammer or not. If you’re feeling worried, anxious or depressed, you’re not alone and there’s help available.
Sometimes things can get so overwhelming that it can all seem black. It needn’t be like that. If you reach a point where your feelings boil over, there are people out there who will listen, confidentially and anonymously. Many of the helplines have the facility for webchat or email, so you won’t even need to talk.
BSA's closed Facebook Support Group is open for everyone aged 13+.
Student Minds: Student Minds run peer support groups so that students experiencing mental health difficulties have access to a supportive environment in which they can talk about life, university and what they are doing to keep their lives on track.
The Mix: The Mix is the UK’s leading support service for young people. There for any challenge – from mental health to money, from homelessness to finding a job, from break-ups to drugs. Free, confidential, anonymous. Talk to them online here or call 0808 808 4994, open 4pm to 11pm every day.
CALM: The Campaign Against Living Miserably, for men and boys hitting crisis or feeling down. Confidential, anonymous, free. Phone: 0800 58 58 58 (daily, 5pm to midnight) or contact them on webchat.
Other Sources of Support
When you are online, don’t give out personal information in chat rooms. See www.childnet.com/young-people/secondary